Showing others better ways of communicating and listening has allowed me to help couples and families re-establish trust, compassion and to have happier relationships. As John Gottman says, ” You can really build romance passion and lasting love… it is a choice, you have to actively cherish your partners positive qualities.” My work with marriage and family therapists Bill and Linda Wing, taught me so many different ways to improve the quality and deepen the joy with couples.
Stepfamilies are where two adults are in a committed intimate relationship where at least one adult has children from a previous relationship. I love working with blended families. It is a wonderful privilege to work with these men and women who have come from so many different family dynamics. As a Step Parent myself, I have learned that the common thread of all step families is forming a trusting and united parenting commitment with my wife. I have experience working with:
- Stepparent-Stepchild conflict
- Marital distress, loss issues (death and divorce)
- Between – home conflicts with ex-spouses
- Child misbehavior, depression, and menacing emotions such as anger, bitterness, and jealousy.
Men’s Issues, especially anger issues
I have a passion for helping other men have better relationships with family, spouses and friends. By listening to your truth in a safe non judgmental environment, I have found ways to make traditional therapy more comfortable and accessible to many men and their families.
Anger is like an iceberg, the part that everyone sees is just the tip. It’s what is just beneath the surface that can do so much to devastate our relationships. As a therapist I live in the world of empathy, feelings and listening…a far cry from the way men were taught to hold in their feelings and to be tough. “Big boys don’t cry…” I have found that many men find their inner strength and power after better understanding the feelings and talking about them in a safe and non judgmental environment.
“You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger”. – Buddha
Money Fights and money problems are the number one cause of marital discord and certainly play a huge role in any divorce. I have found that working as a team my wife and I have managed to pay off almost all of our debt and are well on our way to a very comfortable retirement. I was the one that had to be dragged into the classes offered at our church for Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University.
It was a good thing this guy was funny and really had a great plan for teaching others about handling money. Turns out my wife and I are now facilitators at our church for Financial Peace University. I have seen first hand how working together couples with rocky marriages turn things around in as little as eight or nine weeks! And other couples with pretty good marriages turn their relationship into a great marriage.
I offer a complimentary 15-minute consult to new clients, if now is the time for you to see a therapist, please schedule that here.